Long time reader, first time caller. It's interesting isn't it my partner and I does seem a little strange when you say it out loud. But for all the time I have lived in Canberra its almost normative to use that term rather than husband or wife. Indeed once my last relationship ended and I ceased to be married I realised I never wanted to go there again. I don't say this as a comment against other's choices in this regard but rather as a personal reflection.
When I met the most lovely J, we discussed this early in our relationship and realised both of us were against marriage for the reasons you outlined in your post. Misogyny and the religiosity of Marriage just was not for us, so we left it behind. Once again blessed with living in the furthest left city in Australia we were able to choose a civil partnership instead of a marriage. We have settled on T and J when we introduce ourselves to others as it's easy and also actually introducing the other person.
Having said all of the above I think this in no way should stop the legalisation of Equal Marriage Rights. After all I had a choice which others who I care deeply about do not, and it's ultimately the question of that choice that is at the heart of the issue. When their practices cause no harm, an individual should have the right to exercise their free will, even if that is to get married!
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It's a strange thing marriage
Date: 2013-09-11 12:10 pm (UTC)Long time reader, first time caller. It's interesting isn't it my partner and I does seem a little strange when you say it out loud. But for all the time I have lived in Canberra its almost normative to use that term rather than husband or wife. Indeed once my last relationship ended and I ceased to be married I realised I never wanted to go there again. I don't say this as a comment against other's choices in this regard but rather as a personal reflection.
When I met the most lovely J, we discussed this early in our relationship and realised both of us were against marriage for the reasons you outlined in your post. Misogyny and the religiosity of Marriage just was not for us, so we left it behind. Once again blessed with living in the furthest left city in Australia we were able to choose a civil partnership instead of a marriage. We have settled on T and J when we introduce ourselves to others as it's easy and also actually introducing the other person.
Having said all of the above I think this in no way should stop the legalisation of Equal Marriage Rights. After all I had a choice which others who I care deeply about do not, and it's ultimately the question of that choice that is at the heart of the issue. When their practices cause no harm, an individual should have the right to exercise their free will, even if that is to get married!