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In which I anticipate being alone
Mar. 24th, 2006 11:31 amTwo weeks to go...
I don't think it has really sunk in yet, for either of us. How it will impact on us and our relationship in the long term, well... who knows? We can start out with the best of intentions, but things do change, even when we say they won't.
Not that we haven't done the long-distance thing before - we did start out that way, after all. Back then of course it was all new and exciting, and it was a big risk, because neither of us knew for sure if a relationship would work. It was just that we knew it wouldn't if we didn't give it a chance.
I don't think I've ever imagined a settled life for myself. The last ten years or so have been anything but. I don't see much changing in that regard over the next ten years. If I achieve my dream of becoming a successful writer, there's no real reason for that to change. I can write anywhere.
But I need an anchor. They say that home is where the heart is, and mine will soon be departing for the other side of the country.
Independence is something to be valued, and taken advantage of while you still have it. There are some who say you only get one chance at life, and deep down, that's what I believe. When opportunity beckons, the best thing to do is follow it, lest you spend the rest of your life regretting what might have been. Some things are not worth sacrificing, or compromising, and the pursuit of the goals you cherish is one of those things. No matter how much you care about someone, there comes a time when you have to live for yourself.
Loath though I am to trot out that hackneyed old phrase, it seems appropriate here - 'If you love somone, set them free' - and at the end of the day, no relationship can be accounted strong unless it has been tested.
I don't think it has really sunk in yet, for either of us. How it will impact on us and our relationship in the long term, well... who knows? We can start out with the best of intentions, but things do change, even when we say they won't.
Not that we haven't done the long-distance thing before - we did start out that way, after all. Back then of course it was all new and exciting, and it was a big risk, because neither of us knew for sure if a relationship would work. It was just that we knew it wouldn't if we didn't give it a chance.
I don't think I've ever imagined a settled life for myself. The last ten years or so have been anything but. I don't see much changing in that regard over the next ten years. If I achieve my dream of becoming a successful writer, there's no real reason for that to change. I can write anywhere.
But I need an anchor. They say that home is where the heart is, and mine will soon be departing for the other side of the country.
Independence is something to be valued, and taken advantage of while you still have it. There are some who say you only get one chance at life, and deep down, that's what I believe. When opportunity beckons, the best thing to do is follow it, lest you spend the rest of your life regretting what might have been. Some things are not worth sacrificing, or compromising, and the pursuit of the goals you cherish is one of those things. No matter how much you care about someone, there comes a time when you have to live for yourself.
Loath though I am to trot out that hackneyed old phrase, it seems appropriate here - 'If you love somone, set them free' - and at the end of the day, no relationship can be accounted strong unless it has been tested.
